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Girlfriends + Love and Support = A Great Life

Girlfriends.  Do you have them?  You should!  You should have a strong group of them.  They are awesome!!  When I began my Mary Kay business, the number of girlfriends I had could be counted on probably 2 fingers.  I’m not sure why I didn’t have girlfriends (and uncovering that mess isn’t worth it), but I do now.

I never imagined that starting a Mary Kay business would bring so many friends into my life.  I started my business to make money. Really…who doesn’t?  I was looking for a financial way out of a bad marriage, but it has brought that and so much more; personal growth, deepening of my faith, choices and girlfriends…today’s topic.

Learning to be a girlfriend took time as I do believe it’s a learned behavior.  The first thing I had to do was learn to let the wall down or at least remove a brick or two.  That was hard.  I had spent years pretending to be the “perfect” wife, mom, employee, etc.  Marrying a man who was obsessed with people’s perceptions of him and our family only made the wall protecting my imperfection thicker.

At my first large Mary Kay event, a very successful woman stood on stage and shared her story.  One aspect of her story was also my story.  I no longer felt alone; someone shared my secret.  Only her’s wasn’t a secret any more; she was free.  I wanted that.  I wanted to share my story.

Brene Brown, renowned author and speaker said, You share with people who’ve earned the right to hear your story.”  I’m not saying that I ran out and told everyone the good, the bad and the ugly, but  I found one or two girlfriends who earned my trust, and that allowed me to take the wall of protection down a brick at a time.

In my circle of friends, not everyone knows everything about my life, my story or my journey.  There are inner-circle friends who are my close friends who know the most.  Then the circle widens like the rings of a tree.  I have friends that I love and adore, but they are on the outside and only occasionally come to the inner circle.  Not because I don’t love or trust them, but due to location or life circumstances, it isn’t possible.

Most of my friends are a result of my business.  I have discovered that entrepreneurs think differently than most people who are employed by others.  I like to surround myself with women who think BIG…women who want to become better, impact more people, understand the need to work non-traditional hours.  Your “tribe” or circle has to have common goals and thought processes.

Recently, I was blessed to be surrounded and mentored by these women.  For the past three years we have met at the Mimslyn Inn in Luray, VA.  There were about twenty of us; two directors and eighteen consultants.  We gathered for training, mentoring and planning on how to grow our businesses.  We wanted more, and we were willing to hold each other to a high level. It was like a house of sorority sisters…and we had a lot of laughs!

Some of these women have been with me through my entire Mary Kay journey.  They stood beside me and behind me when I was going through my divorce and the aftermath.  Some are newer friends.  We are just beginning to build that bond.  There are a some that you meet and make a connection, you feel you have known each other your entire life.

Whether they are new friends or friends that have journeyed with me, I cannot imagine my life without them.  What about you?  Do you have such a tribe or circle of friends?  If not, I encourage you to find and create it.  Don’t know where to start?  Consider beginning a Mary Kay business.  There you will find a deep resource of friends and growth.  There is more to this business than meets the eye.  Some of it meets the heart.

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